Updated: Apr 1
March 25, 2021
“Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.” Ecclesiastes 7:9
I sometimes struggle with feelings of anger. And because I find it negative and potentially destructive, it is a feeling that I constantly seek to transform.
Psychologists have classified the expression of anger in four different types: aggressive, assertive, passive-aggressive, and suppressive. For me, anger usually manifests itself in suppressive and passive-aggressive ways. Suppressing anger easily leads to defeatism, obsessive behavior, and self-blame while symptoms of passive-aggressive anger can lead to selfishness, verbal abuse, blaming, and frustration.
Although it can be argued that anger can have some value in terms of survival or moral outrage, it is a feeling that can quickly lead us to darkness and suffering instead of peace, happiness, and fulfillment. In our journey to God, I invite you not to suppress anger, but to experience it, quickly acknowledge it, and diligently transform it. As the quote above wisely says, it is foolish to allow anger to lodge in one’s heart.
These reflections are meant to challenge us on our journey through Lent. Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments with us.